Tuesday, August 25, 2009

that 6 month mark theory

i first read about it on ask moxie, but couldn't recall really noticing any difference around f's 18 month mark. it's a theory about children's development and how they tend to get all out-of-sorts, developmentally, around the half-year mark of each year, and then it all kinda comes back together (and their behavior smooths out accordingly) around their birthdays. but f's sleep has always been wonky (read: pure torment to someone like me who needs to sleep in order to function) and i really don't remember any difference in her, behaviorally, around 18 months. but lately? holy nutballs, our little girl is right at the 30 month mark and moxie? i think you're onto something.

all of the sudden, she's getting REALLY SERIOUS about "NO!" and loves to tell us that we're not "listening to her words". "mama, you're not being a good listener," she says. and the 8 year old in me wants to say "oh yeah? neither are you! SO THERE!" but wait, i'm the adult, right? RIGHT? sometimes reverting to ridiculous 8 year old behavior is JUST SO TEMPTING.

the other fun development in our world is f all of the sudden just going from 0-60, from normal fun f to super freakout mode, in two shakes of a lamb's tail. we give her lots of time warnings to let her know what's next and what's expected, like "ok, 2 minutes of playing and then we're brushing teeth" - that kind of thing. so last night, we'd given her the heads up more than once, and she'd even picked out a toy to bring with us into the bathroom (because really, brushing teeth? so boring without toys!) when as soon as we get into the bathroom, she says "mom i need a baby." no biggie, right? i said "f, you already have a toy, we'll get a baby as soon as we brush your teeth and go back into your room". like, baby! soon! no worries! silly me - it was a BIG worry, apparently; she started yelling at me: "MAMA! I NEED A BABY! NIGHT NOW!" (night now, everything is "night now", see). the tears! they were INSTANT! they were less than instant - it's like she starts crying even before i can get the words out of my mouth! seriously! (what do you think you are, f? two and a half?) and dude, she LOST IT. i got down on my knees and couldn't even get a word in edgewise. she was so pissed. and all i was trying to do was to say hey - your babies are 5 feet away from us right now (night now)! you've already got a toy! let's just brush your teeth and call it good! but instead i think she was hearing "NO BABIES EVER AGAIN EVER EVER EVER" or something along those lines. she was hysterical within 10 seconds, so what did i do? after trying to stay calm and repeat that we could get a baby after we brushed her dang teeth and and and... i gave in. i then yelled at j, who was sitting there watching this all go down. i gave in,yelled, j handed us a baby for her, and i spent the next 5 minutes calming her down. then i apologized to j, and she made me say sorry to him twice more, which was fine, because it was like she needed to see that (and i did owe him an apology, for sure) so that was good for all of us. but really? is this what's in store for us? because seriously, it's freakin' exhausting. this acting like a two and a half year old is for the birds.

so. these little f meltdowns - they're happening like once a day now. and i'm not the best at handling them calmly and gracefully every time (or anytime for that matter, but a girl's gotta have goals). if anything, when she melts down, it just totally stresses me out, and the whole time my brain is going "what would moxie/hal runkel/peg bundy do?" but i can't think that quickly, because IT ALL HAPPENS SO FAST! ugh.

and, um, i just reread all of that, and now i'm confused. who's going through the 6 month turmoil? her? or me?

3 comments:

  1. I find this hilarious only because this is like a typical day at our house.

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  2. oh my...i just blogged about this myself. i need big bright letters on every wall that say C-A-L-M!!! i have guilt every night about whether i handled a situation well and did i just ruin a for life? ugh....seriously...for the birds...you are right on. hope you guys are having fun with the zonies. :o)

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  3. oh my...i just blogged about this myself. i need big bright letters on every wall that say C-A-L-M!!! i have guilt every night about whether i handled a situation well and did i just ruin a for life? ugh....seriously...for the birds...you are right on. hope you guys are having fun with the zonies. :o)

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